selfish

haih.... need to talk about "selfish" again...

This thing always happened, whenever there is human in group..

Small social group like school, you can easily see this things happened. For examples, you get some tips from your teacher for exam, are you willing to share with your friends in other class? When you get extra notes, are you going to share with you friends? When you have the knowledge, are you willing to teach your friends? When your friends have no idea how to do something, are you willing to guide them?

Even in uni right now, can see there are people who are kind or friendly enough.. or may be they don't mind. However, they are people who are stingy in knowledge. There are actually no right and wrong answer here. Why don't I just give you an example? Is easier to understand what I trying to say later on.

A get tips from some resources, and A don't want to share with others. So A kept it himself. However, there is no such thing as 'secret' in this world. So B found out from some resources as well, therefore A has to share with B. If B is selfish enough, B will just keep it to himself. and the snow ball goes round and round. At last, the whole world will know the truth. So what do you think? A is selfish? okay.. what if B share with his friends...

The friends knew the truth and when they find some resources. Should they give A? If you think from the friends side, "why should I give A? A didn't want to give us the tips at the first place." How bout you think from 3rd person view? From A , B and the friends, they are all selfish. If you only look at the last situation, the friends didn't share the resources with A, they are actually being selfish.

At last, A who is being selfish, not only lost trust from friends, lost his reputation, lost the extra information as well. The most pathetic one is to lose friends.

Recently, I read a blog of a selfish girl. I realise this type of people, they didn't know or realise that they are actually selfish. They think other people are selfish. So coincidently, the persons that this selfish girl commented selfish .. is someone I know. Actually I think not only this type of selfish have this type of problems, most of the people have this type of problems. They only think from their side, how bout others?

The someone that the selfish girl commented on is those type of people who think on others shoes . She know the selfish girl commented on her... coz the selfish girl is rude enough to front stab her 'accidentally'. Although she is treat badly, she feel guilty for her future decision. Actually I think this girl think too much, the decision that she made is actually not such a big deal that I think it would hurt the selfish girl.

Okay,if you are selfish girl friend, you will think selfish girl is the victim; if you are someone friend, you will think your friend is the victim.

I used to think this world is consist only black and white. Actually everything is grey... everything is mix with black and white.. In one particular case, there are always positive and negative no matter which side you see it.

Okay.. back to 'selfish'.. I will think, if you want to be selfish, you can overcome the guilt, then you can go on. if you don't realise you are actually being selfish, also okay, just that you might lose thing without knowing why. I won't say don't be selfish is the best, there are situation that you need to ignore other feelings... that you need to be so call 'selfish' to others, which to me, you are not. You just doing the best for all of you.

There is no perfect solution, only the best solution.